The Gift of the Exile

In September 2025, a majority vote separated an online A.A. community from the home group it had built over five years.

In March 2020, when the pandemic shut down a long-running A.A. group's meeting room, one member printed flyers and set up a phone-in meeting. Twenty people called in on St. Patrick's Day morning. They thought the arrangement would last a few weeks. It lasted five and a half years.

When restrictions eased, some members returned to a new in-person location. Others kept meeting online every morning at 7:00. For four years, the two communities coexisted under a single umbrella, sharing a fragile sense that they were still one group.

In September 2025, the in-person members called a vote to separate. Four weeks' notice, no rationale. It passed by three votes. Fifty-four online members were left with a blank page.

Across eight Saturdays of formation meetings, those fifty-four built something none of them had belonged to before-the group they had been seeking all along. They wrote their membership statement word by word. They chose their name by ranked-choice vote. They sought the group's conscience through consensus rather than majority rule and read A.A.'s Traditions for their spirit rather than the letter. 

The questions they worked through are not unique to A.A.: how we decide together, who belongs, what we owe each other. Any community that governs itself by shared principles will recognize the dynamics in these pages, whether a church, a nonprofit, a civic organization, or a recovery group.

The Gift of the Exile is a case study in what happens when a community loses its conscience, and what it takes to rediscover it. Jim Beach, a founding member of the group that became Our Fellow Travelers, tells the story from the inside.

The Gift of the Exile is the story of what they lost, what they reclaimed, and what any community can learn from how they did it